As I stated
in my previous post, it is practically impossible in this day to have a civil,
constructive conversation with someone of a differing opinion. The reasons for
this are many. There’s education, culture, and family to name a few. But the
one driver that constantly seems to outpace everything else is media.
Now when I say media, I’m not
necessarily talking about the traditional media of the past; the network news
programs, newspapers, and normal radio programming. What I am talking about is
the assorted mishmash of news sources we come across from the highly-partisan
and rarely honest variety found on most forms of new media like cable news,
social media, podcasts, blogs, vlogs, etc. The full list of sources is long,
varied, and all-too-often remarkably unchecked by anything resembling truth or,
God-forbid, facts (regardless of what side of the aisle they are on).
Yes, we have 24/7 access right in
the palm of our hands and it’s easy for many of us to not only stay informed,
but over-informed, misinformed, or completely uninformed as well. Far too many
of us are so “well-informed” that we believe we can’t possibly be wrong, and we
are all-too-ready to attack anyone who disagrees with us or hasn’t acknowledged
the flaws in their own arguments.
I’m not picking on anyone, it’s just
the truth. Honestly, I have been that “informed” person before. So I know from
where it is I describe.
As I thought harder about this, I
began to realize that much of the problem stems not from the variety of news
services or opinion pieces, but from our desire to consume only the sources that
reinforce our beliefs or speak to what we want to be true. Sadly, there is an
over-abundance of sources, so if one wants to, they can easily stay in their
own little multi-media universe, complete with groups of like-minded believers
and never accept the fact that there are people who have differing opinions who
can be caring, logical, intelligent, honest, and might have a good point.
As I look back on my 52 years on
this planet and I can see the direct correlation between the rise of incivility
and the proliferation of the 24/7 media, multi-media, and social media. When I
was in my 20’s and before, most Americans read the newspaper, those actually
made of paper that left ink on your fingers. We listened to music or sports on
the radio, and we might catch the nightly national news program in the evening
for 30 minutes before we ate supper.
In my youth we got our TV news from
Chancellor, Reynolds, and Cronkite. By the time I was in high school, college,
and the early years in the Navy those names had changed to Brokaw, Jennings,
and Rather. Those were your television news sources. We read the paper, watched
the evening news, and we were done – THAT WAS IT!
We simply didn’t sit and watch
hours upon hours of CNN, Fox News, MSNBC, Newsmax, CNBC, HLN, etc. We didn’t
sit in front of a screen and watch YouTube videos. We didn’t listen to
countless hours of Podcasts. We got our daily dose from a news sources and then
we got on with our lives.
We lived life away from media. We
went out and enjoyed evenings with our friends. We watched sports. We went to
the movies, and we saw movies without a political tone, you know… for entertainment. It wasn’t about us not wanting to be educated about our times and
what was going on (newspapers…. DUH), it was about us being informed productive
members of society, not mindless drones enslaved by the hours of biased,
partisan media of any nature.
Maybe we should try to get our news
like we did before. Subscribe to your local newspaper. Watch the nightly news
on ABC, CBS, or NBC at 5:30 pm or 6:30 pm depending on your time zone. And then
leave all the rest alone.
Try it for a month; heck, try it
for a week if you can’t do a month! Put down your phone and look around. Turn
off cable news, quit spending all your time looking at Facebook, twitter,
Instagram, snapchat, or whatever else you look at. Enjoy your family, your
friends, your neighbors, your community. I guarantee you’ll get enough news and
info from the paper and the nightly news to know what’s going. And you’ll have
more time to decide for yourself what you believe rather that forming your
beliefs from what you are exposed to on internet media, cable networks, and
social media.
Give it a go. Maybe, just maybe we
can begin to reintroduce civility to our conversations.
Cheers,
Bill